PrimeTargets
Did you know that the average age of a romance fraud victim in the UK is 50 years old and 63% are women?
Later in life we may come into money via divorce settlements, inheritances, pensions even. The maturer person can be more vulnerable and isn’t necessarily as computer savvy as the younger generation, this can make us more susceptible to being targeted. Unfortunately I was targeted at a very vulnerable time in my life and it nearly ruined me. I cannot mention any names due to legal reasons as things are finally in the hands of the law but I decided to launch this site to help all online daters but predominantly the maturer woman, as I firmly believe that we may be more likely to becoming a PrimeTarget.
On this site you'll find help with dating tips, red flags, information on NPD and where to go if you've been scammed, abused or a victim of coercive control.
Of course you can meet genuine people online so don't give up hope of finding someone special, just tread very carefully, watch out for those red flags and don't end up a PrimeTarget.
Please Share
Please share this site with your friends and family as it may prevent someone from getting seriously hurt. If you have been through a similar experience you may want to submit your own story to help others. But most importantly don't feel stupid or foolish if you've been physically, mentally or financially abused, as believe me, there are some very, very convincing and unscrupulous people out there!
Dating Do's & Don'ts
Do - get to know the person you're chatting to, always keep diligent and do your research, Google can be a great tool
Don't - give out your personal information straight away even your phone number, as this could lead you to being traced to where you live
Do - tell your family and friends where you're meeting your date and make sure your phone is fully charged
Don't - hesitate to verify further, do that background check. If they have an image use Google to 'search by image' to check their true identity
Do - block any suspicious users as they will try to move you straight onto Whatsapp, text or phone calls
Don't - send explicit photos even if they do first, you may feel pressurised but just ignore the requests
Do - meet in a public place, NEVER in a private or remote location. Never go to someones house until you know them
Don't - have too much to drink or take any narcotics, stay in control and keep a clear mind. Keep an eye on your drink at all times
Do - listen to your friends, they can normally see what you can't. Love really can be blind sometimes!
Don't - ever respond to money requests even if they say its an emergency. There are some extremely good actors out there so think first
Do - listen to your gut feeling it's normally spot on! If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is
Don't - ever accept any form of abuse, be it physical, verbal or mental. Walk away and do NOT go back
Do - report them. Whether it's fraud or abuse, If they are prepared to do it to you they will do it to someone else, so report them
Beware - The Wolf in Sheeps Clothing
I honestly thought a narcissist was just someone who loved themselves until the day I was interviewed by a police officer, who'd previously studied psychology. It was that officer who opened my eyes to Narcissistic Personality disorder (NPD).
I then went on a voyage of discovery where the i's and t's were dotted and crossed and all the pennies dropped. I learnt exactly who I'd been dealing with the past few years. This helped me immensely and I realised it wasn't my fault! I had been feeling so foolish having believed all the lies and putting up with the abuse for so long. But I now know I was selected because I was vulnerable and I am an empath. Basically, narcissists are blood sucking vampires who search for vulnerability and will stop at nothing to get what they want. It's all a big game for them and they don't care who they hurt or step on in their way to get it, even their own families aren't safe.
Having done a lot of research into NPD and other personality disorders I thought it important to share this knowledge, as you may be unaware, as I was, of this form of abuse.
Click here if you'd like to know more ...
Red Flags Spell Danger
Below are a few Red Flags to watch out for in a new relationship, if any of these are flapping in the wind do not ignore and tread with caution
They claim to love you too early in the relationship and become obsessed with you
They want to spend every minute with you and rush a new relationship onto the next stage
They flatter you all the time and put you on a pedestal early in your relationship
They describe all their exes as crazy, it wasn't them that split up the relationship but the pyscho ex
They try to drive a big wedge between your friends and family by dropping seeds of doubt
They're secretive about a lot of things and are constantly on their phone or computer
They 'overlapped' their last relationship with yours
They try to make you feel guilty most of the time
They often 'forget' or lose their wallet or their bank cards are not accepted when they go to pay for something
Stay Strong!
Some inspirational quotes to brighten up your day
Submit & Share Your Story
A problem shared is a problem halved!
I am in the process of setting up a 'Real Story' page so if you have a story to tell please drop me a line. Sharing your experience may help other people avoid becoming victims of crime and abuse.
